Fear of saying “no” in romantic relationships

If you can’t say “no” to someone that you’re in relationship with, then you are in a type of prison.  You are at the whim of the desires of the other and have lost autonomy.  Practice saying “no” sometimes.  If you’re having a hard time saying no, plan ahead what you want to do instead in a given situation and be ready to say “no, I have other plans”.

Saying no can be scary.  But then again, fear in and of itself is it’s own type of prison.  Fear puts limits on what we can do and who we can be.  More often than not, the fear we feel is a callout to growth and needs to be pushed into.  Every time we push into our fears, we are expanding our lives.  Every time we push into fears we are making more things possible that before were not possible.

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